Wednesday, September 30, 2009

18 weeks and a Halloween preview

We are 18 weeks! I can hardly believe it, this pregnancy is flying by. I am so excited to have our ultrasound in a few weeks and see the little peanut. I am also anxious for the boys to be able to feel the little one moving. They have been patiently waiting for that!
Jonah and Elijah decided to be transformers for Halloween. We were trying on the costumes to see if they fit.
Aren't they cute?


Thank you for your prayers, my sister Nikki was sent home from the hospital yesterday and she is doing very well! She feels great and has been tolerating her new "soft diet" and my mom is out in Montana making sure she doesn't over do it!

Monday, September 28, 2009

Being boys

Two boys I absolutely adore...
playing outside
all day on the first "cool" fall day.
Acclimating our new play-set to a life with boys
given to us so graciously by friends.
Fabulous fresh air
exploring new things
showing off new "tricks" for mom
lots of giggles, laughs, and
just being boys!

A little bit of this, a little bit of that...

I Love Fall! I am going to decorate a little around the house today...

These are the beautiful flowers Richard planted and my roses!


The boys made these for me at MOPS last week! It was exactly what I needed during a VERY stressful week!

We had a wonderful time in Minneapolis this past weekend with my mom and sister Laura. It was so much fun to watch her run! She did an amazing job running her 6K! We were able to do a little swimming, shopping, and even some much needed relaxing!

Nikki has her NG tube out too! Last update I received, she was tolerating her gourmet clear liquid diet. Please keep praying for healing and that her body will tolerate food and she will be able to get out of there!

Thursday, September 24, 2009

Surgery today

Update: Nikki is out of surgery and doing well. The surgeon found two areas of her small bowel that had banded together. Once he fixed this he was able to see air pass through below the area seen on CT scan where no air had been seen below. He said he felt good about the surgery. They also placed a smaller NG tube in her nose which she said feels more comfortable. I got to talk to her for a few minutes and it was so nice to hear her voice! She was in some pain still but using her morphine pump! Thanks for the prayers and we'll keep you posted!
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Sorry for the lack of updates on my sister, but I was waiting until we knew more. She had a CT scan this am that showed absolutely NO improvement over the past week of being NPO, having an NG and IV fluids. The surgeon (Dr. P) is still not convinced that surgery is the best option, but considering the fact that nothing has changed my sister is willing to take that risk.

Because she has had no improvement, they are wondering if she has some adhesions rather than an just an ileus. The adhesions could have been from when she was sick before her very 1st surgery and her abdominal contents were so swollen and everything was irritated. The surgeon is leery to do surgery because it is so soon since her last surgery and he is not sure what the adhesions will look like after. This could be a risky surgery or a "quick fix."

Nikki has been such a trooper and has an amazingly positive attitude throughout this all! She is however, starting to feel very uncomfortable from having the NG in for a whole week! Her ears, nose, and throat are very sore and irritated. They are going to switch the NG to her other nare so that should help with a little pain and hopefully she won't even need it that much longer!

They are unable to do this surgery laproscopically because of the location, so she is going to be cut open in the same spot as before. Dr. P (the original surgeon and wonderful physician who has been Nikki's advocate this whole time) is going to perform the surgery.

My dad is still out there with Nikki and my mom is hoping to head out there next week and relieve my dad. We are fortunate to have had a family member with her all the time to care for her and be an advocate so her husband can continue working during the day!

Please pray for her safety during surgery, and for the surgeons. Pray the Lord will guide their hands and decisions and that this will "heal" her finally. Please pray for safety over her body as she heals from another surgery so quickly after the first one. She does still have her PICC line so she can receive IV fluids and medications through it.

Thank you all for your support and prayers! We know God is in control and we are thankful for that!

Monday, September 21, 2009

Impatiently waiting

Impatiently waiting. That is what we are doing. I just wanted to update quickly on my sister and thank so many of you for your prayers, emails, phone calls, and support! It has been so hard being so far away from her and I am overwhelmed by this feeling of helplessness!

Nikki remains in the hospital. She still has her nasogastric (NG) tube in her nose that is draining her stomach. She is still not eating anything and we are still just waiting for her ileus to resolve. She did however, get a PICC line placed yesterday so she is able to receive some much needed total parental nutrition (TPN) and lipids (fats) through her PICC. (TPN is a fancy word for IV fluids with essential electrolytes, amino acids, and other goodness needed when your body is not eating and you are depleting resources.

She is still having bouts of nausea and her NG tube is being difficult at times. One of the most frustrating things for me has been hearing about the poor care she is receiving from the nursing staff. It isn't every one of course, but those bad eggs sure spoil the lot! Fortunately, her mother-in-law and husband have been amazing advocates for her care and are keeping everyone in line since Nikki feels so awful!

We are also very fortunate that one of her physicians, Dr. P (surgeon who performed her 1st surgery) has been with her throughout this all and is doing an excellent job advocating for her care as well! It is unfortunate that things are so slow, but we are confident this is the best plan for her. Dr. P has reassured us that this is a very SLOW process (waiting for her bowel to "wake up") but he feels this is the best option for Nikki. Surgery right now just isn't ideal and it will only slow the process even more, if not make things worse. Especially since they think that might have caused this ileus!

My dad is driving out there right now and is going to relieve Nikki's mother-in-law of her role on the front line! I am just so thankful that Nikki has such wonderful in-laws who are caring for her as she is their own daughter. What a blessing! I know that has made it more bearable for us who are in Grand Forks.

This picture is hanging in my kitchen. How often do I allow life to pull me in every direction and forget the bigger picture?

Thanks again for the prayers and please keep 'em coming! I will do my best to update as I can. We are also confident that God is in control and He has a plan. What more can you ask for?

Thursday, September 17, 2009

Prayer for my sister

Update #2: (Friday) My sister had a CT scan today and they think she now has a blockage! AHHHHH! This is what they originally were expecting to find when she had surgery the first time. She has been miserable again today and throwing up. It has been so frustrating being so far away and not able to be there for her or be there to ask questions. I am so thankful her mother-in-law is there to help advocate and that our own mother will be there tonight. Last I heard, the GI specialist was meeting with the surgeons to determine what the next step is and the surgeon does not feel comfortable operating now. He feels her CT scan looks the same as it did before (when they thought it was blockage and it was infection). The plan is to wait until tomorrow and the surgeon and GI specialist will meet with Nikki, her husband and my mom. Please continue to pray for her! Thank you for lifting her up. I am trying to be patient and reminded of how the Lord is all knowing all powerful and is in control!
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Update: My sister was doing well throughout the day yesterday and ended up throwing up and feeling very nauseous last night so they had to place a nasogastric tube to drain her stomach. I have not been able to talk to her because she is too sick and now it hurts to talk with the tube in. I know last time she was in before surgery she said this was a very painful procedure for her and very uncomfortable. Her mother-in-law has been doing an excellent job advocating for Nikki and keeping the rest of us informed. My mother is headed out there today. Our other sister (Laura), has a cross country meet in Bozeman tomorrow and God's timing is so wonderful! My mom had already purchased a plane ticket to make a quick trip for the weekend to watch Laura run and now can see Nikki too!
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(My sister and her hubby Tom)

Please pray for my sister Nikki! She is living in Montana with her husband. She had abdominal surgery about 3 weeks ago due to symptoms of cramping, pain, and abdominal distention prior to that. They were afraid they would find a blockage, but fortunately they did not find an obstruction but 3 areas of infection and some swollen lymph nodes. Many of you prayed for her after I posted this. Thank you!

They removed the lymph nodes and sent off tissue samples to try discover what was causing all her pain. The pathology reports came back normal and after reviewing her lab work they determined she had gastroenteritis (inflammation of the gastrointestinal tract) and possibly a viral infection. She was hospitalized for 4 days and has been struggling with similar symptoms since her surgery. She has had a hard time eating anything and has been back multiple times to see why she is not feeling better.

This past week she was back in the ER for the same symptoms that brought her in the first time. After many more tests, they determined she needed to see the GI specialist, who was unavailable until today. She was finally able to see that doctor today who has now diagnosed her with a paralytic ileus (basically her intestine is paralyzed and not allowing anything to pass through). As a result she has been having diarrhea and throwing up! She was readmitted today and is NPO (not allowed to eat), receiving IV fluids, and some medication for her pain. I am not sure about the plan of care after that.

Our mother was able to spend a week with her after she was released from the hospital the first time. Her mother-in-law so graciously headed out there yesterday and is caring for her so her husband can continue working. (He just started a new job a few weeks before her first surgery and has been missing quite a few days due to Nikki not feeling well).

Please pray for healing and that she will FINALLY be better after this admission. Also pray for their jobs. I am not sure how understanding or flexible they have been through all this. We (our family) is grateful that her mother-in-law is now able to be out there caring for her since we can not! We are also so thankful for her wonderful husband who has been doing an excellent job taking care of Nikki, working, and keeping the rest of us updated!

They do not know anyone else there yet so it has been very stressful dealing with this by themselves. Nikki has also been too weak to care for herself often.

Lord, we know you are the ultimate healer. I lift my sister up to you and ask you comfort her and wrap your arms around her! Please give her strength and allow her body to rest and heal as it needs too. Please give the medical team wisdom and guide their decisions Lord. I pray their jobs are gracious and understanding throughout all this! I pray too for this to strengthen their new marriage. Thank you Lord!

**On a lighter note, Jonah is convinced Nikki's tummy hurts because she must have a baby in there. I have explained to him multiple times that she does not have a baby in her tummy but is just sick. He responded by saying he figured she had a baby in there because she is always sick like me! He also said he was glad she isn't because "I would like to know if I have a cousin!" Elijah has been praying for Nikki to feel better so she can eat cookies and ice cream!**

Tuesday, September 15, 2009

You say it best, when you say nothing at all

Love. This word is overused in society today. We say we love everything from a great chocolate cake, to the beautiful sun shining, to our adorable snotty nosed kiddo who needs a pick me up, to a great "sale" at the store, to inanimate objects, to those we hold dear to our heart (spouse, family, friends).

The word is spoken often in our house. It is very high on the list of words that come out of my mouth most frequently too. I know this word means different things to so many. The depth of its meaning is also understood differently by the one speaking it and the one receiving it. Even though I say it often, I still mean it every time.

Perhaps it is due to the fact that I live my life always wondering if it may be the last time I say it each time I do. Or it is just how God made me.

Since becoming a wife and a mother, I believe I have an even deeper understanding of what love really is. Love is so much more than a warm fuzzy feeling that makes you feel like you might finally experience flight like the birds. True love is selfless, sacrificial and hard.

Even though I love hearing that four letter word. Sometimes it is even better when you say nothing at all and speak in other ways. Like saying I love you by cleaning the house for your spouse, making a delicious meal for a friend who is struggling, or giving a thoughtful gift to brighten someone's day. Or leaving love notes around the house when you hardly get to see your spouse due to our hectic schedule.

If you don't already know how my husband feels about giving me flowers you can read about it here. You will also discover how they bring such joy to my life.

Last night after a long day, and a late night at bible study, my wonderful husband went to the grocery store to get some necessary items because I was feeling sick. He even took Jonah. The two of them came home with the groceries and Jonah informed me that daddy had got me a surprise and he was going to put it on the table in the morning. I was so excited trying to think about what it might be (chocolate, oreo cookies, or something else).

Richard became upset with Jonah for "blowing his surprise" and then I realized it must be more than chocolate. He came in with a dozen beautiful red roses! That he picked up for no reason but to tell me he loves me. He was going to set them out in the morning for me to wake up to!

On a sidenote, recently I picked up a "special surprise" for Richard, chocolate covered cherries from a local chocolate store. This was something we gave each other in high school for a special treat. They are delicious and made daily. I also made the mistake of letting the boys in on my little surprise and even brought them with me to the store to get them. I explained they were a surprise and daddy would share with them after he opened them. The boys went crazy the rest of the afternoon waiting for daddy to get home.

I wrapped them up and placed them in a gift bag and wrote a note thanking him for being such a great hubby while I'll I have done for the last 12 week is puke and sleep. Richard has barley stepped in the door when Jonah yelled out that he had a special surprise on the table and Elijah followed suit by asking if he could have a "berry" when he opened his gift.

I guess they keep secrets as well as I do! So, I do know Richard was disappointed that Jonah ruined the surprise, but I found it just as exciting! It also means the world to me to hear my husband tell me he loves me. Sometimes he says it best, when he says nothing at all!